Using Fear for Happiness

Hey Soul Friend,

Do you ever think about doing something, but become so overwhelmed with fear and doubt that you talk yourself out of it?

Yeah, me too.

What if I told you that the amount of fear you feel, is in direct correlation to the amount of happiness you will receive if you push through and do it anyway?

Countless thought leaders, productivity coaches and world-class experts constantly preach that happiness is just outside your comfort zone.

Sometimes, that’s easier said than done.

The brain is wired to keep you safe. The moment you start thinking about doing something new, it instantly gets to work recalling every past experience, attempt or situation in which you went outside of your comfort zone and it blew up in your face.

It uses this emotional arsenal to shout DON’T DO IT! which drowns out the quiet whisper of your soul that says you can do this.

There’s a simple 4 step process that I use to call BS when my mind tries to pull this. It goes like this:

  1. Acknowledge what it is you’re afraid of:
    I’m afraid to write a blog

  2. Ask yourself why you’re afraid:
    My friends and family will make fun of me

  3. Ask yourself then what will happen:
    I will feel embarrassed

  4. Repeat step #3 until you get to a point of being OK with taking action despite your hesitations or you uncover a limiting belief that is keeping you stuck

    Then what?
    Nothing really, I’ll get over it in a day or two

    Then what?
    I’ll keep writing my blog, in hopes that it helps just one person

    Then what?
    Then it will be worth the slight discomfort I’m feeling now

Obviously this is a very simplistic example. You might come up against some heavy burdens or big demons. I encourage you to keep challenging them!

With enough self-compassion and self-awareness, I am confident that you can overcome anything that is keeping you stuck!!

I’d love to hear if this 4 step process helped you in any way. Please comment below or shoot me an email at mb@mbmurdock.com.

Soulfully yours,
MB