Follow the Joy

Hey Soul Friend,

Do you have big goals? Goals that require focus and determination? Goals you will do anything to make it happen?

So do I.

In order to complete my goals, I used to map out a schedule. It dictated how and when I would finish things. While having a plan is a great tool, what I realized was I would ignore how I was feeling when I did the task.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Sometimes you need to push through your feelings and get things done.

But when I loosened the reigns (a bit) and didn’t follow my schedule so tightly, and prioritized feeling good while I worked on my to-do list, my end product was always better!

What I’m learning is that by surrendering - surrendering how I want things to be, surrendering when I do things - and instead follow the joy (of doing things that feel good), I get better results.

To me, that’s another confirmation that the Universe always has the very best in store for me - and I know it does for you too!

Is there something you’ve been struggling with? Pushing to make it happen? If so, try handing it over to the Universe. Chase the things that feel good. You might just be amazed at the results!

If you give this a shot, I’d love to know how it turned out for you!

Soulfully yours,
MB

Mastering Change With One Small Trick

Hey Soul Friend,

They say the only constant thing in life is change.

If that’s true, then why do so many of resist, myself included?

Any change, big or small, used to send me into a tizzy! I’d spiral into overwhelm and confusion at the drop of a hat…er…change.

It took me a while to realize that by resisting it, I was actually responsible for creating all the chaos.

Usually, the changes I was faced with were minor. It was my perspective and approach to it that made me think I would never figure it out.

I overcame this using one simple trick: Deep breathing.

Anytime I came across a change, instead of freaking out I forced myself to remain calm and breath!

When I did this, I was able to keep a clear a head and focus on what was needed.

Making this small change erased most of the overwhelm. I was able to finish new tasks quicker, and I was generally more happy and upbeat. Change didn’t instantly signal challenge to me anymore.

Instead, change became opportunities to learn and grow my skills.

I’m curious, how do you handle change? Do you welcome it with open arms? Or will you be implementing my deep breathing trick? Comment below and let me know!

Soulfully yours,
MB

Mastering Change With One Small Trick

Hey Soul Friend,

They say the only constant thing in life is change.

If that’s true, then why do so many of resist, myself included?

Any change, big or small, used to send me into a tizzy! I’d spiral into overwhelm and confusion at the drop of a hat…er…change.

It took me a while to realize that by resisting it, I was actually responsible for creating all the chaos.

Usually, the changes I was faced with were minor. It was my perspective and approach to it that made me think I would never figure it out.

I overcame this using one simple trick: Deep breathing.

Anytime I came across a change, instead of freaking out I forced myself to remain calm and breath!

When I did this, I was able to keep a clear a head and focus on what was needed.

Making this small change erased most of the overwhelm. I was able to finish new tasks quicker, and I was generally more happy and upbeat. Change didn’t instantly signal challenge to me anymore.

Instead, change became opportunities to learn and grow my skills.

I’m curious, how do you handle change? Do you welcome it with open arms? Or will you be implementing my deep breathing trick? Comment below and let me know!

Soulfully yours,
MB

Be Busy Being Happy

Hi Soul Friend,

At any moment you can change your mood, your atmosphere.

Learn the difference between emotions (temporary ways you feel after interactions or reactions) and mood. Moods are long term. A mood is how you, the driver of your life, most often feels.

Emotions are wilder. Harder to control. Requires self awareness, self discipline & taking responsibility - for all of it. Sometimes this can be a bitter pill to swallow.

Mood is the foundation for your life. The core feeling you have about your whole life - your job, your relationships, your desires.

Mood can be established, built or practiced while you alone, by becoming friends with the voice in your mind.

Not feeling your happiest? Pay attention to the tape that’s stuck on repeat in your mind. Challenge the thoughts that are being played over and over again.

Conquering your mood will establish doors in your life for the Universe to deliver your desires. So it’s important you have a strong foundation for it.

Did I mention EVERYTHING is connected? Everything. It’s weird how the feelings of joy and happiness for your life exactly as it is right now is what the Universe needs to create a door. Being aware of all the awesome currently in your life is the door needed for everything you desire.

Often what blocks you from receiving everything you want in life is the inability to realize it is that simple.

Be aware and grateful for all the awesome in your life right now.

It really is that easy.

We don’t have the ability to see the whole picture. We’re only given puzzle pieces, one tiny piece at a time. However the final picture is beautiful. So let the doors be plentiful so the Universe can bust through quickly.

Follow the things that bring you joy. Be patient and trust that what you receive will be exactly what you’ve been chasing.

Remember that it’s all connected.

Most importantly, remember to walk through the door when it appears too.

Soulfully yours,
MB

Slow Down

Hi Soul Friend,

What I’m about to suggest is easier said than done, especially if you work in a fast-paced environment that rewards how quickly you can get things done:

Slowing down.

By slowing down, I want you to make a point of being awake and aware of how you go about your day.

From the minute your feet hit the ground in the morning, to your drive into work (put on some awesome tunes and really enjoy your coffee) straight through to your first break.

So often we get so busy that we forget to eat but this is a great time to have a snack, refill your water bottle (or coffee cup) and stretch your legs.

At lunch time, try to take a longer break, one where you can enjoy your lunch instead of wolfing something down at your desk while you respond to emails.

You’ll need your energy to get through that 2 p.m. lull where it feels like the day will never end. This is a good time to take another 10 minute snack/water or coffee/stretch break.

By making room in your day for your well-being, you’re able to:
a) appreciate your day more
b) notice the little things
c) have more energy for your evenings

The evenings are when your free time kicks in. It’s important you have enough energy to do the things you love instead of crashing the moment you walk in the door.

Maybe you’re a parent and don’t have the luxury of just grabbing food and plopping down on the couch. Maybe for you, this is just the beginning of your second shift.

Either way, the evenings belong to you and you deserve to enjoy them.

Make a point of slowing down, even if the only purpose is to have enough energy to enjoy your evening instead of constantly waiting for the weekend to come.

This week’s Call To Action: comment below with a simply yes if you’re someone who is constantly waiting for it to be Friday.

If you are, try slowing down. Appreciate the little things during your day that do go right. It might take some practice, but I think you’ll find that this simple act really makes a big difference in your happiness.

Soulfully yours,
MB

There's only right now

Hi Soul Friend,

I have some shocking news for you: the only time you have is now. Right now. Not tomorrow. Not yesterday. Today. More specifically, now.

You become tricked into thinking that you have an unlimited amount of time. Not to be morbid, but nobody really knows for sure how much.

So lean into the moments of love and really be conscious of them. Be aware of when they are happening.

Don't get too wrapped up in chasing the shiny things in life - the fancy job title, the new car, the designer duds. When the time comes, all that stuff stays here.

Love those around you, love them hard. Don't take yourself too seriously. Be willing to learn. Be willing to grow.

Yes, growing your bank account is nice. But growing your soul is even better. That at least carries over when you go.

And yes, to be clear, I firmly believe that this life is not the end…but when we go, it's sh*tty AF for our loved ones.

I've been studying a lot about blogs lately and they always say to include a Call To Action - the thing you want people to do after reading your stuff (download this, buy that).

Well, this is my Call To Action from you: Love your loved ones. Today & every day, even on the days when it's hard.

It will be the best damn thing you ever do & it will be your legacy to the world.

Soulfully yours,
MB

You Get What You Give

Hey Soul Friend,

What you put out, you receive back into your life.

Simple.

Take a look and see how you are treating people.

Are you talking to them in a way that promotes good things to come your way?

Or are you being a bit of an a-hole?

Be aware of your thoughts. If you have a smile on your face but a snarky commentary going on in your mind - guess what signal will be sent out to the Universe?

Not the fake smile, that’s for sure.

If you do suffer from the “fake smile” syndrome, know that there is time to change the thoughts in your mind.

Just because you think something, you can chose to pick a different thought.

All you need to do is:

1) Be aware of the rude comment

2) Tell yourself you’re not going to repeat that habit

3) Pick a nicer, friendlier comment.

(Sidebar - is friendlier even a word!? hahah)

With time and practice, this will become second nature to you.

Until then, asking yourself the below three questions will help you decide if you need to pick a new thought:

Is it kind?

Is it true?

Is it necessary?

If you can answer yes to all 3 questions, then you’re good.

If not, keep practicing the 3 steps above to train your brain to be nice.

After all, the world needs a little more kindness.

I’m curious, have you practiced these three questions before? Has it made a difference in your life? In your stress levels?

If so, I’d love to hear your story so please comment below!

Soulfully yours,
MB

They're Just Words

They're Just Words

When I first began learning about the law of attraction and how to manifest, I didn't get it right away. The whole process seemed confusing & the words were very aloof and "whoo whoo." It felt like everything I was reading was using a lot of words to say nothing at all. All the lessons were lost on me. It was so discouraging.

Believe Before You See

Believe Before You See

I'll believe it when I see it.

Is this a statement you can identify with? 

If yes, you're not alone. Most of society thinks this way. For the longest time, it was my own way of thinking too.  

Unfortunately, this statement has the power to block everything you most desire in life from coming to you.